Identity: Follow Your Dreams

I have been reflecting on my life experiences in preparation for the launch of my new book, ‘Say Yes To New Opportunities’. This has been very hard for me, as I have had to revisit the day that I had my emotional meltdown at work, as an experienced senior leader. For so long, I have pushed the memories of what happened that day, deep within. I always talked about what happened, as facts but did not connect with the details, emotionally. This has now changed, due to the day my publishers asked for more details with a series of questions they wanted me to answer.

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As I had my session with my therapist, we explored how I was really feeling. One word came to the surface – Identity. I also realised why I wanted to forget the pain of the day. I realised that it is easier to deal with physical pain than emotional pain. When dealing with this pain, you forget to follow your dreams.

What do you think?

When you go through physical pain and illnesses you get support from others. You do not get told, “Get over it, or words to that effect.”

When you have hidden disabilities and illnesses where do you go for help? For many, there is no place to go. There is no one to really talk to and let them know how you really feel. So, what do you do? You bury your emotions, put a smile on your face and tell everyone, including yourself, that you are fine.

No wonder, depression kicks in!

What is even worst, for most of the time you are coping with depression and you do not even know this is what is wrong with you. You know you do not feel right, but you cannot put a name to it.

Does anything that I have written, resonate with you? If the answer is yes, read on.

In the midst of my pain, I started to listen to personal development videos. The more I listened the more I connected to the speakers and realised that I was focussing on the wrong things. I needed to focus on me. 

This may seem a selfish thing to do, but let me explain. If you do not look after yourself, then how can you look after others?

One powerful exercise I was encouraged to do was to write sentences about who I am.  I took 30 minutes of me time. As I wrote, I started to cry as inner healing came. In the end, I wrote 40, I am sentences. I am not going to share all, just a few but instead of using the word I, I am going to use the word you.

  1. You are special and need to celebrate your uniqueness.
  2. You are loved, not just by your family and friends but by many people whom you have met, directly or indirectly, this last year after you made the decision to take back control of your life and have a better work-life balance.
  3. You are 100% committed to anything you get involved in. You show up 10/10 and help others to become the best version of themselves.
  4. You are fearfully and wonderfully made and it is a miracle that you are alive.
  5. You are unique, with specific gifts and talents and experiences that you can use to impact the lives of others in a powerful way, because you can fully empathise with their pain and challenges.
  6. You are a good role model to the young people in your life.
  7. You are bigger, better, bolder and brighter than you ever thought possible. The more you learn the more you expand your circle of influence. There is no limit to the you that you can become. The only limit is what you put on yourself.

How are you feeling after making these affirmations about yourself?

No matter what you do for a living, you know how hard it can be to overcome personal and professional problems. Why not get the help you need from someone who has been there?

I have developed a new course called, ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ to help you on this journey back to wholeness. A course where you can discover your true identity and write your own I am … list.

Would you like to Celebrate Your Uniqueness and FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS?

Sign up for more details here.

 

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If You Don’t Use It, You’ll Lose It!

As we look around us, we can see a lot of preparation taking place, for the celebration of Christmas Day, next Sunday. Lots of gifts will be brought for family, friends, and for other people in our lives. Many of these gifts will be used, but some will be placed in the recycle pile or ‘stored’ for a later date. Why are some gifts used, recycled or stored? Does it depend on who has given the gift? Does it depend on, if the gift is needed? There are many answers to these questions, but one thing we can agree on is, some gifts will be used, recycled, or stored.

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Let’s apply this idea to our lives. We all have things that we are good at. We call them, our gifts, or talents. My two primary gifts are teaching and counselling. These two gifts allowed me to learn a variety of different skills, that I have used in all areas of my life – personally and professionally. What would have happened, if I decided, I did not want to use them any longer? I would lose the effectiveness of the skills.

In the Bible, we read the parable of a Master who calls a meeting for three members of staff.  I am going to adapt it, for this context. He has been observing how well the members of staff, have been working over a period of time, and He has decided that the time has now come, for them to put into practice what they have learnt, under His training.  In one, He recognises five gifts, in another two and in the third person, one gift. He tells them, they will be given time to develop their gifts, and He will be back, at a later date,  to hold an accountability meeting.

The one with five and the one with two gifts, drew up action plans, as to how they would use their gifts, that they had been given. Within a short period of time, they realised the skills they had, could be used in new ways and new settings. The more they used their gifts the more skills they realised they had. The one with one gift, stored the gift – just like the Christmas present.

The Master returned and the accountability meeting took place. The one with the five gifts now recognised ten gifts; the one with the two, now had four gifts. The one with the one gift, brought it out of storage, unused. This gift was taken away from him, and given to the one with the ten. If you don’t use it, you will lose it!

This last year, I took my two gifts of teaching and counselling and have learnt so many new skills. When I am out now meeting someone for the first time, and they ask me what I do, I have to pause and think how I will answer their question. Let me explain.

My two gifts became five and the five has now become at least ten. Besides teaching and counselling, I am now a lay minister preaching and sharing God’s word using social media;  I have an integral role in Gospel Creative Media; I have set up a You Tube channel Gospel News and Views; I have trained as a Master Coach specialising in the well-being of individuals and well as for employees in a business setting; I am a verifier for the London Healthy Workplace Charter; I am a trainer delivering soft skills and management and leadership courses working with Activia Training; I am the author of two books – my latest one – The use of coaching and AfL as tools for school improvement came out last week and my third book will be out in the new year; I am a television broadcaster and presenter working with Good News Britain.Com ; a motivational speaker; and an expert on living with lupus following my live radio interview for an American radio station this week. These have all been achieved in less than a year.

At the start of this year, I asked Father God to use my gifts to bring glory to Him. He has opened doors that have left me speechless, and in tears – especially this last week. He can do the same for you, if you ask Him.

Why not ask Him now, to show to you, what your gifts are. Say a prayer of commitment that you want Him to use your gifts for His glory in 2017 and beyond. In the new year, I will be launching my new programme ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness’ which will help you to recognise what your gifts are, and how you can use them in all areas of your life, just as I have learnt to do this year .

Have a blessed week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/ 

Celebrate Your Uniqueness!

Another month will soon be ended. Another week has passed. Another day.

As you reflect on the last month what differences have taken place in your life – personally and professionally? Are you the same person you were at the start of the month or have you grown in one area or another? Have you had a difficult month, and are you hoping the month ahead will change your circumstances?

This last month, has been one of the most challenging month, emotionally, that I can remember. It has been a month where I have had to look within to see how my past circumstances are affecting me, now in the present. It has been a month of tears. Tears of sadness but also tears of joys. It has been a month where barriers which have been in place in my life, for decades, have finally been broken down. It has been a month of change.

I have noticed that as I have changed positively, it has also impacted the lives of others, in my life – both personally and professionally, in a positive way. Relationships which have been broken for a long time, have been mended, almost miraculously.

What has been the reason for my changes? I have learnt to appreciate myself. I have started to see myself the way God sees me, and not the way society sees me. I now see myself as special. I now know that I have been created just the way I needed to be, to make me, me. As I have processed what these words truly mean, they have changed me.

In the business world, they ask, “What is your unique selling point?” “What sets you apart from your competitors?” Let’s make it personal. “What are your unique qualities?” “What sets you apart from everybody else?”

The answer is simple, yet profound. Your life experiences and the way you have coped with them.  Let me illustrate. Two people could have had the same event, like being made redundant from a job they liked, with a short notice period. One could take the news positively. They now have the opportunity to pursue a new career; whilst the other person will be impacted in a negative way, by becoming depressed, and spend months at home with no clear direction in their life.

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The 24th September 2016 was a special day for me. No it was not my birthday. It was a day when I returned to the same hotel and the same room that my healing had taken place in on the 24th May 2014. In the May I was a guest at a women’s retreat. Yesterday, I was the guest speaker at the women’s retreat. At this event, I launched my new programme called ‘Celebrate Your Uniqueness.’

This last month, has taught me, I am special. Not because of things that have happened in my life, but because of my very existence. The fact I am alive. Let me explain. A newborn girl is born with between one and two million immature eggs. It is estimated that between 40 million to 1.2 billion sperm are released. The right egg, with the right sperm, needed to fuse together at fertilisation to give me the right combination of DNA to make me.  As it says in Psalms 139:14, “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”

Ruth is fearfully and wonderfully made.

(Insert your name) is fearfully and wonderfully made.

As we learn to celebrate our uniqueness and not try to be like someone else, it will start to heal our pain.

This is why this month has been special. Hard as it has been, I went to get the help needed to start to heal my pain. I am on a journey. As I travel, I am impacting the lives of others because I am sharing my transformation with them. I am helping them to see that they too can be healed of their pain, if they are willing to take the necessary steps. It has not been easy, but the experiences have been worthwhile. Why? As I shared my presentation, I saw lives change in a miraculous way and deep emotional healing take place, not just with one person but with many.

Celebrate Your Uniqueness!

Have a great week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/ 

Be Adopted!

I had the honour to be a guest at three weddings over the last couple of weeks. One was a traditional Nigerian wedding; one a Christian church service and the third a contemporary wedding. In all three weddings, I and my sons were invited as family members.

If you were to check our DNA, there would be no match; but the bond between us, is stronger than with some members of our immediate family.

When my sons were aged 3 and 5, we moved to a new branch of church because it was closer to our home. I was unable to drive long distances as I was recovering from a car accident. The members of this church, especially one family took my sons under their wings and offered practical help. They did not have to make this decision, but they did. Nineteen years later, they are still honoring the decision they made, to be there to look after my sons, now young adults. They adopted them into their family. There was no legal arrangement but they have carried out the role, as if there was a legal bond. As part of this family, my sons became part of their extended family. The groom getting married, at the first two weddings above, was part of the extended family. As the young men reflected, at the wedding, they know they are blessed. They truly are family – not just in words but in actions.

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When I was three my uncle, came into my life. He too made the decision, He would ‘adopted’ me, as he was getting married to my aunt. Even though they are no longer married, he remained true to his decision. He has since remarried, and the third wedding, I attended, was his step- daughter. I felt so proud to be introduced as his adopted daughter. Some asked at the wedding what it was like to be adopted. As I explained they was no legal responsibility, they commented on how special I must feel. I replied, “I did feel special.”

When I came to London as a student, I started to attend church. I knew no one and was miles away from home. One of the church members reassured my mum that she would look after me as her own. She has been true to that promise for over 30 years. It has been a blessing being adopted by mum. She has been there to support me in the good times and in my challenges. As the years have passed the bond between us has strengthen.

My own sons have asked me on several occasions, “Mum, you have given birth to the two of us, but do you know how many children you have?”  I am unable to reply with a number. Due to my own experiences, I realise the importance of looking after the needs of others. Not temporarily, but for a longer time. The investment is well worth it.

I am now a member of several families and the bond originally started in church or a place of work. However, the relationship has grown outside of the walls of the building. This is why these relationships are special. We have made the choice, that we want to strengthen the bonds, to get to know each other better. We are comforted to know these bonds do not need to end, due to the promise found in Ephesians 1:5 NLT, “God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.

As you interact with others this week, look out for someone who you can adopt into your circle of friends. As you get to know each other better, and start to trust each other, they too one day may become adopted into your family.

It starts with a conversation …  it ends with adoption!

Have a great week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/ 

Broken Walls

I was sitting on a stool and having a conversation. It wasn’t the first time I was having a conversation on this topic or in this environment; but today was going to change my life in ways I could never have imagined. I felt as if a tap was switched on, inside of my body. The next morning, I woke up, I had a slight pain in my body. Nothing I couldn’t manage. My cousin was visiting from Barbados, so we decided to go into London sight-seeing. As the day progressed, the pain intensified so we had to return home earlier than planned. We got off the train. I was in too much pain to drive my car. Fortunately, my cousin could drive. I arrived home and went to bed.

The next morning, I visited my  doctor. He examined my body. He soon realised the glands all over my body had become swollen. He sent me for a series of tests, as he thought it was glandular fever. My face developed a rash, my eyes became swollen. I felt awful.  At the same time, I had two young children to care for aged 2 and 4.

I was unable to return to school for the first couple of weeks, as my body was feeling too weak. Further tests took place. Two months later, I was diagnosed with the condition lupus. I am writing this blog 20 year later.

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To help protect me from the pain, I placed around myself a wall. A thick wall. No one could get in, but worst still I could not get out. The wall did not go up consciously, but subconsciously. The wall also meant, I disconnected with my emotions and sharing with others what I was genuinely feeling inside. I would only share what would make the other person feel good. Inside, I was bottling up a lot of physical but also emotional pain.

Fast track now to the Summer of 2016. I am attending a church service for the first time.  The pastor changed his sermon topic. He is now inspired to preach around the topic of barriers in our lives. At the end of the service, he greets me and asks me, “What barriers are preventing you from doing the work God has called you to do?” Straight and to the point.

I did not reply. He came back again with the same question. I asked him, if he was always so direct. He encouraged me to go home and read Psalms 91 for a few weeks and personalise it. I thought he had left.

He came back again and asked me the same question, the third time.

I realised he was not going to give up, until I answered his question. I invited him to sit down. As we sat. We spoke initially and then he started to pray for me. As he prayed. He shared things with me unknown to others. He shared that the clock I had stopped 20 years ago would start to tick again. The more he prayed. The more emotional I became. Eventually, I could not hold back the tears anymore and I started to cry. As I cried a sense of peace came over me. Crying in public and sharing my emotions were things I did not do, especially with someone I was meeting for the first time.

Two weeks ago. I visited the church again. Another preacher came and changed his sermon again. This time he spoke about the topic – we are chosen and anointed by God. At the end of the sermon, he too prayed with me and gave me a challenge. In seven days my life would change. I needed to come back the next week and share what changes had taken place in the previous week in answer to his pray.

Last week, I returned. At the end of the service, a time of testimonies was taking place. One women gave her testimony and ended by singing the song – ‘There is no one like Jesus.’ I went to my friend to share this was the same song which was sung just before my first healing. As we spoke, I broke down in his arms and cried. These tears were not of sadness. They were tears of peace. Tears to show the wall I had placed around me 20 years ago had truly been broken down.

You too may have placed a wall around yourself, or some other form of protection. This wall has stopped others getting in, but it has also kept you trapped. Don’t wait for 20 years, like I did, to get the help you need. I have shared my experience, because I want you to know walls can be broken down. We have to make the choice we want things to change. I’m praying you too will go and get the help you need to break down your walls.

You may need to speak with a pastor, like I did; a coach, a counsellor, a therapist etc. What matters is you seek the help you need and work with them to get the healing you need. I am so glad my wall is broken down as the view of the world is not of pain but now of beauty.

Have a great week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/ 

Natural Beauty

The coach arrived at the National Showcaves Centre for Wales. The Pathfinders, (similar to scouts) were having a day out. Not the usual venue to take 12 coaches of young people and their counsellors for a day trip. They usually want to go somewhere with more action, but then they were having a learning trip. They were going to discover some natural history about Wales and what life was like in the past. Hopefully they too may appreciate some of the comforts and benefits they now have!

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I had visited Harrison’s Cave in Barbados before, but the Dan yr Ogof Cave had some amazing formations. Two of the most famous ones are the “Heavenly Angel” and the “Alabaster Pillar”. Can you imagine what it must have been like for Tommy and Jeff Morgan over 100 years ago, to discover such natural beauties with only candles to light their way, a coracle to cross the lakes and some rope to help them climb up the rocks?

The second Cave we visited was the Cathedral Cave. This cave had two beautiful waterfalls, side by side. No wonder people want to have a special wedding in this awesome setting!

The final cave, the Bone Cave , was much smaller. We had to wear hard hats to get unto it and bend our bodies low. It gave us an appreciation of the difficulties of exploration. In this cave we saw how the caves were excavated and what life was like for man and animals living in such confined spaces, together.

Within us, we all have natural beauty, but it takes time and effort to discover it. Imagine what would have happened if when the Morgan brothers hit their first obstacle they turned back; instead of them discovering the caves it would have been left to others or this hidden beauty may still not have been discovered.

What have you been called to discover?

What are you going to be remembered for in history?

It does not have to be a major achievement as the Morgan Brothers, but your life should impact the lives of others in a powerful way.

Remember the word history is His -Story. It is our own individual story. Every day we are writing our story in the lives of others.

  • The little acts of kindness that you do, are writing your story.
  • The love that you show to others, is writing your story.
  • The conversations that you have with others, are writing your story.
  • The messages that you leave on social media, are writing your story.

My talents and gifts are unique to me and I have to use then to write my own story.

I am taking up my challenge of saying yes to new opportunities and as I do, I am discovering more natural beauties within myself but also in the lives of others. I am discovering that the more difficult the challenge, the more that I appreciate the beauty within, when I overcome the challenge.

I hope that I get the opportunity to visit these caves again as they truly are a place of natural beauty.

Why not in the week ahead take some time out of your busy schedule and use it to discover some natural beauty in your local area.

Have a great week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

 

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/ 

 

 

 

Anchored!

I am writing this blog from the beautiful setting of South Wales. I am part of the staff for the BUC Pathfinders Camporee taking place in Pembrey for the next week. Pathfinders is a youth organisation, in our church similar to the scouts.

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It has been a long time since I have been at an event similar to this. The last time I attended a youth camp, my sons were in their early teens.  As I am here I am meeting up with some people whom I have not seen in years; even back to my days as a university student!  and making new friends.

I had a session with the young people and their leaders yesterday, those who arrived early on site.  I used the theme for the camporee as I spoke, ‘Anchored’.  The main text we used is found in Hebrews 6:18-19a NLT

So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls.”-

What is an anchor and when is it used?  The dictionary has two definitions for the word anchor.

  1. A heavy object attached to a cable or chain and used to moor a ship to the sea bottom, typically having a metal shank with a pair of curved, barbed flukes at one end.
  2. A person or thing which provides stability or confidence in an otherwise uncertain situation.

What are some things we could be anchored to?  What are some objects, persons or activities that we attach ourselves to on a daily basis that give us the support we need to get through the day or week ahead?  Some suggestions shared were:

  • Mobile phones
  • Friends or family
  • Music
  • Television programmes
  • Places of work
  • Latest technological items

None of these in themselves are wrong to be anchored too, but when we become addicted to them then we are having a problem.

What do we mean by the word addiction?

According to the dictionary, the word addiction is described as: “Habitual psychological and physiological dependence on a substance or practice beyond one’s voluntary control.

Another scientific definition is-  A physical or psychological need for a habit-forming substance, such as a drug or alcohol.

Let’s get personal. It is unlikely that you are addicted to alcohol or the nicotine in cigarettes, but are you addicted to your mobile phones? We always think the young people are but what about us as adults?  When you get up on the morning what is the first thing that you do? If you leave home without your mobile phone would you feel lost without it and have to return home to get it, even if it means that you will arrive late at work?

Let us go back to our main text to see if there is a solution for our addictions. Is there another source that we can be anchored to that will help us in life?

“So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls.” Hebrews 6:18-19a NLT

As we go through the week ahead, let us take some time out of our busy schedule to read some of the promises which are found in God’s Word, the Bible.  As we read them let us claim the promises which will help us with whatever challenges we are facing in our lives. We can claim them because we are reminded that it is impossible for God to lie.

It does not mean that God will always say yes to our request. Any good parent will not always say yes to their children; so why should we expect God to always say yes. What we can be assured of is,  He always wants the best for us.

When I was younger we used to sing this song in church – Try Jesus

Try Jesus,

Try Jesus,

And when you’ve tried everything and everything fails,

Try Jesus.

Let Jesus be the first person we try, because we are anchored to Him.

Have a good week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

 

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter and broadcaster. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Connect with me via my email at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk    or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/

 

Be Empowered!

The summer holiday has begun. The students are looking forward to a time of rest and relaxation.  Parents or carers are thinking about how they are going to juggle childcare arrangements and demands from work. Not an easy task; I know from past experiences.

This time last year, I had left the school I was working in, as my contract had finished. It was going to be an unusual summer holiday because unlike in the past where I would be making preparations for the new school year and planning lessons for the new curriculum changes, I was home making plans for the arrival of my new book, ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Friday 22nd July 2016 was a year since it has been published. I thank Father God daily for the lives that have been changed by people who have read my book or have interacted with me in my various new roles.

I never imagined that the publication of my book would have changed my life the way that it has. Doors of opportunity are opening for me in various places. I am learning that my challenges in life are being used as a blessing to others, as I share my personal journey.

At the time I sent my manuscript to the publishers, I was home from work due to an emotional meltdown from stress at work, that resulted in two months’ recovery at home. I realised that I had become disempowered and had no real identity. I was not enjoying my work. I felt like I was on a treadmill. I was moving in a forward direction but I was not going anywhere.  Do you identify with any of these feelings?

Last Monday morning, I had the opportunity to speak at a breakfast networking meeting.  In my presentation, I shared how I became empowered. I shared my journey of how I became an expert well-being and opportunities coach, motivational speaker, author and a new television presenter working for the show ‘The Great British Good News Show’.

Why had this transformation happen in my life?  I changed my focus from my agenda to Father God’s agenda. Psalms 37: 4, 5 (NLT) summarised the change:

Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desires.  Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust Him, and He will help you.”

What about you? Do you feel disempowered and that your life is going nowhere? Do you feel as if you are on a treadmill going in no real direction?

Do you want to learn how you can take delight in the Lord?  How to commit everything to Father God – not some aspects of your life but all of it? How to put your trust totally in Him?

Freedom

This Wednesday, I will be holding my first seminar called ‘Be Empowered! Get Off the Treadmill!’ where I will share how I started my journey back to wholeness. The seminar will not be faith- based but the lessons learnt can also be applied to our faith journey.

  • Do you want to learn how you can have more choices in life?
  • Do you want to discover your unique qualities and purpose?
  • Do you want to be able to say yes to new opportunities, confidently?
  • Do you want a better work-life balance?

You do not have to take this journey alone. Remember the words of the promise found in Psalms 37: 4, 5 (NLT) – “Take delight in the Lord, and He will give you your heart’s desires. Commit everything you do to the Lord. Trust Him, and He will help you.”

Have a great week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

 

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

 

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author, motivational speaker and television presenter. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  ruth.pearson@listeningtoyourvoice.co.uk  or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/

 

 

Hidden Beauty

My back garden was a place of beauty a few years ago. My sons and their friends had cleared it and we had planted some new flowers and shrubs in it. However, due to my lack of mobility and my sons schedule, the garden grew and became a jungle. A literal jungle! Plants were entwining with each other and I could not get out to hang up the clothes to dry in the sun. I even had a fox take up residence. This has been going on for years. I made a decision. I want my garden back!

Over the last couple of weeks’ things have changed. A gardener was recommended to me and he now is working to transform the jungle into a place of beauty. The old has been chopped down and cleared. Several bags of green waste have been removed from the premises and many more will have to be removed over the coming weeks as we transform the jungle back into a new place of beauty. The old has gone, the new has begun! In the meantime, I look at garden pictures, like the one below, for inspiration.

Garden Path

On Tuesday I left him working on my front garden. It was landscaped years ago, before I or the previous owner had brought my home.  A couple of times, per year, my mum would take out the sheers and clip back the overgrown leaves. The professional worked on it this week.

Can you imagine, my disbelief when I arrived home and saw that right in the middle of my front garden has been a path that goes around the plants? I have lived at my home for 15 years and did not even know the path existed.

There was so much hidden beauty that I had not seen because the leaves had become uncontrollable. Even though we had tried in the past to maintain it, it took an expert to discover what was hidden.

We as individuals are like my front garden. We have beauty hidden within us but we allow the cares of life to cover it. It is only when we allow the Master Gardener to come and prune and clip away the excess, that we see what has been hidden below.

Father God loves us so much but we do not realise the depth of His love. In the week ahead, take some time out, with Him, and ask Him to open your eyes to see, your hidden beauty.

Have a good week.

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

Ruth

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

 

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author and motivational speaker. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Email me at  gospelnewsandviews@gmail.com or visit my website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/

Take Off the Mask!

Do you wake up each morning and feel that you are on the treadmill of life? Do you feel that you have lost your identity? Do you wake up in the middle of the night, and stress over a bunch of questions? Do you wonder if God hears you when you speak to Him?

If this is you, please continue reading.

Just over a year ago, I went through one of the most distressing experiences in my life. I was at school. The behaviour of each class escalated. I was using all of the behaviour strategies that I had been taught, but none of them were working. I felt like I was about to be attacked by a pack of hungry lions. I felt dis-empowered.

I left the class in the care of the teaching assistants, behaviour specialist, and went to make a call to get the ‘ring leaders’ to be removed from the classroom, so the rest of the class could prepare for their examination that was taking place in 4 days’ time.

Can you imagine my alarm, when instead of making the call, I began to cry? Not little tears. It was the start of an emotional meltdown. If it was not for another colleague who came out of her room to get some paper for her class, I would have dropped to the concrete floor. Instead, she took me into her arms, and comforted me. I was sobbing like a baby. Anyone who knows me, knows this behaviour is atypical of me. After a few hours I was able to use some inner strength and calm myself. I knew that I needed to get to the safety of my home. I arrived home, alone.

Imagine my alarm when the next morning I was terrified to attend school. I rang my doctor and booked an emergency appointment as I was finding it hard to breath due to an excruciating pain in my left ribs.

There I was in my surgery, seeing my doctor who had cared for me for over the last 12 years with all of my health challenges as a lupus patient. In all of the years, he had never seen me in the state he saw me that morning. As we spoke, I broke down again crying uncontrollably. Once he was able to calm me he asked, “Ruth, what’s causing your pain?”

When I shared what had happened the day before at work, he gave me a month off from work for work related stress, and told me that I must go to the desk and get the number of the counselling services and call them as soon as I get home. He also told me that I must book another appointment to see him in a month.

I felt totally devastated.

I was in a lot of pain – physically and emotionally.

I was very angry at God for allowing this to happen. Why me?

Tuesday morning, this week was an emotional time for me.  I was attending my therapy session, group counselling. This was our sixth session. The aim of the session, to recap our learning and evaluate our progress.

“How well are the sessions going?” we were asked as a group.

I thought I’d go first, to complete the review.  To get it out of the way. Little did I know what was going to happen.

If you feel ready to share, what’s brought you into therapy?” I was asked.

Take off the MaskNo longer could I wear the mask. I had to take it off and speak about what had happened not in an abstract way as I had done in the past, but at an emotional level. As I started to answer the questions, deep emotions came to the surface. Although it was difficult, I was now going to start the path to real inner healing.

As the other women shared their experiences, I realised how much we had changed as a group. We were learning to take off the masks that we had worn for years and talk about our own personal challenges, in a supportive environment.

As I arrived home, I became emotional again. I rang a friend and shared how I was feeling and she encouraged me to call my therapist. I did and we were able to speak. I was able to reground myself. All of the actions, on Tuesday, were atypical for me. However, I also learnt that it was safe to take off the mask. A sense of inner peace came over me. I was able to go and have a rest with my mind clear of anxiety.

All along this journey, I have not been alone. Father God has been there with me.

You too will have your own personal challenges and may like me, at the time, be angry with God. He understands. He feels your pain and hurt!

Just like a parent feels compassion for a child in pain, Father God feels the same for you.

Just the same way the teacher had to hold me in her arms to catch and support me, Father God wants to hold you and support you; but you have to let Him.

Just the same way that I am having the help needed to bring emotional healing, if you listen to His voice, He will direct you to the help that you need for your own personal challenges.

Take off the Mask!!

Have a good week.

 

Remember, Stay Blessed and Stay Connected.

 

Ruth

 

Copyright © 2016 Ruth Pearson, All rights reserved

 

Ruth Pearson is an inspiring well-being coach, consultant, author and motivational speaker. She has had over twenty-five years experience working in the education sector and is also an effective leader. She has a passion to work with families, and individuals, to transform lives.  She shares some of her own personal life experiences in her book ‘Listening for God’s Voice: 40 Days of Developing Intimacy with God’. Ruth, can be contacted via email at gospelnewsandviews@gmail.com or visit her website: http://www.ruthpearsonuk.com/